Heart to Heart

There are certain lessons only a mother can teach. A grandmother may not be as relatable, and a sister may not have enough wisdom—which is why it’s up to Mom to initiate a heart-to-heart about matters of the heart. Although it can be a difficult subject to broach, your greatest gift to your daughter might just be the knowledge to face tough times and come out stronger.

Here are the ten most important things young women need to know about love, and how to explain them.


You’re Enough

“If ever there were a message daughters need to hear from their moms, it’s this,” says self-esteem and confidence guru Jess Weiner, author of Life Doesn’t Begin Five Pounds from Now.

“Believing you are enough means remembering that nothing in you needs to change to be loved.” Teach your daughter that anyone who tries to convince her otherwise isn’t right for her, and someone who doesn’t see her worth hasn’t earned a place in her life.

Give Respect to Get It

And that goes for not just significant others but also friends and family. “You must model the respect you seek in a partner,” Weiner says. “When you care for your body—feed it well, rest it well, treat it well—then you will more naturally be drawn to someone who will do the same.”

Don’t Lose Yourself

Falling in love can cause a woman to fall out of sync with who she is without her other half. “Don’t let your own insecurity or your relationship stop you from living the life you deserve,” says Weiner. Remind your daughter to keep her interests, friends and alone time. She needs them all to lead a happy life and continue to feel fulfilled—whether or not the relationship lasts. “There’s plenty of room for self-love and romantic love,” adds Weiner

Listen Closely

Remaining perceptive can save her heartache. If the guy she’s interested in says he isn’t looking for a girlfriend, tell her to believe him. If he snaps at his mother, she should take note. “If you notice a person being unkind to someone else, don’t fool yourself into thinking it will be different with you,” says Weiner. Often, people show and tell everything you need to know. Remind her not to trick herself into believing she knows “what he really means” instead.

When to Move On

Mothers must teach their daughters true love is about affection, selflessness and generosity. If those qualities aren’t there, she shouldn’t be either. “Loneliness, reenacting the past, outside pressure or shared friends aren’t reasons to stay with someone,” says marriage and family therapist Carin Goldstein. “Don’t wait until your daughter is in a crisis to give this advice.” Help her learn how to recognize signs she shouldn’t stay with someone before she has to make that decision.

Know What You Want

Sometimes relationships look right on the surface, but feel wrong deep down. Maybe she’s not getting out of it what she’s putting in, or she simply feels something’s missing. Tell her to understand her wants and convey them, so she can fix issues or move on. “She must have a strong sense of self, not try to be what the other person wants her to be,” Goldstein says.

Learn From Loss

Your daughter will never need your advice, and shoulder, more than when she’s brokenhearted. Remind her that it’s OK to feel pain, but a breakup can be a lesson in itself. “Nothing teaches a woman more about herself than losing love,” says Jaime Morrison Curtis, author of Prudent Advice: Lessons for My Baby Daughter, A Life List for Every Woman. “How she handles her first breakup will shape her future relationships in a profound way. She will learn what she’s willing to accept, what she really needs and when and how to let go.”

Give Him Room

Teach your daughter not to desperately pursue; love will arrive when it’s ready. “The heart wants what it wants, but it often sabotages itself with impatience,” says Curtis. “Dogs run away when chased, and so do people. Everyone needs room to breathe.”

Don’t administer litmus tests as measures of a person’s love. “Testing is a sign of one’s own fear and insecurity,” says Curtis. “While opening up to the nuances of sharing your life with someone is scary, that’s also what makes love rewarding.” The keyword here is trust: Teach your daughter to trust her significant other, the strength of the relationship and herself. Remind her she was born with good instincts. That self-confidence will set her up for healthy relationships.

Be Your Own Hero

Tell your daughter not to model her life after Cinderella. “There’s no shame in enjoying a fairytale, but see these stories as opportunities to teach your daughter that real love is complicated, and comes in all different forms,” says Curtis. Remind her she carries equal weight with her other half, and she can “slay the dragon herself,” Curtis adds.



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